Advice for an atheist

To start off with, my parents are really fundamentalist christians and I came out as an atheist about two months ago. Anyways, life is basically a living hell right now because they are trying to reindoctrinate me. I’m home schooled because they said they made a covenant to God that they would shelter me from the evils of life. I have two bible classes a day and every other class religion gets shoved down my throat since they control the tests, lessons, ect. I got a job a while ago just so I can get away from all this bullshit. But they insist I take days off to go debate with their pastor and go to church. I’m really just tired of this whole thing and I really don’t know what to do to combat this. Can they force me to do anything as a 17 year old? Is there some sort of way I can at least skip church?

Btw they don’t listen to anything I have to say because “The fool hath said in his heart there is no God”.

Posted: November 28th 2012

Dave Hitt www

You’re in a very difficult situation. Your best bet right now is probably to avoid arguing with them, because you can’t change their minds and will only succeed in making them more aggressive in their attempts to “cure” you. The same goes for debating with their pastor.

Refuse to discuss this with them (which will be incredibly difficult), save your money, and get out on your own as soon as you can.

This may seem like an impossible situation now, but millions of other people have been in the same situation. It gets better, rather quickly, once you’re away from them.

This will be very difficult, and there is a strong possibly your parents will disown you when you leave. That will be painful, but it’s their decision, not yours, and there is little you can do about it.

Posted: December 7th 2012

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Galen Rose www

Unfortunately, while you’re a 17 year-old, they can force you to do practically anything that isn’t illegal. And unless you can afford to move out, not much will change when you turn 18.

Two things I suggest you think about. When they tell you they homeschool you because they want to shelter you “from the evils of life,” you might point out to them that the surest way to find the real truth is to follow the path with the most information. In your home school they are censoring information, ensuring that you will be ignorant of many things when you go out into the world on your own.

Secondly, as far as forcing you to attend church, I think I would be tempted to tell them that being forced to listen to that nonsense and not be allowed to question it gets you angry, and that one of these days you’re liable to just stand up in the middle of a sermon and yell out that it’s all crap, that nobody can prove anything of substance about any religion, including Christianity. Maybe the threat might make them back off . . . and maybe not.

Posted: November 30th 2012

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